Unrequited Love

Unrequited Love

Unrequited Love – A feeling, especially love, not returned or rewarded.

Have you ever found yourself in love with the idea of someone loving you, while knowing that they don’t love you back? Deadass, it’s probably one of the most damaging things we can do to ourselves. Loving someone who doesn’t love us. Unrequited love is not attractive and its most definitely not romantic. The sick part is, we don’t even realize that we’re doing it until the damage is done and we are left not recognizing ourselves when we look in the mirror.

I’ve definitely found myself in that position more times than I’d like to admit. I got to a place where I was literally begging for that love in return. In the end, it never came, at least not how I wanted it to. It was cold, it was forced, and it wasn’t authentic. I had to come to the realization that loving someone, without being loved in return is not love. It’s worship. It’s self-destructing. You start questioning your self-worth, thinking that maybe the reason that love isn’t being returned, is you. When in fact, that’s not the case at all. Just like how we can’t help who we love and have feelings for, we also can’t help who we don’t love and don’t have feelings for. Unrequited love is a two-way street, and it’s unfair and selfish to blame the other person for not returning the love we’re giving if they simply don’t feel the same.

Unrequited LoveShould you ever find yourself in that position, which somewhere down the line you probably will because we’re humans and shit, self-preservation is key. Take that energy away from that person, and put it into yourself, or the person who actually does want to return your love. “Love yourself.” That shit sounds cheesy and cliche, but it’s true. Love yourself until you get to a place where even if someone doesn’t love you in return, you don’t blame yourself, and then once you get to that space, keep loving yourself. One mistake we often make after experiencing that unrequited love, is shutting down. We don’t wanna love anymore, we don’t wanna give love another chance, but we should be doing the opposite. Love wholeheartedly, love endlessly, and love without borders.

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About Shallah Cotto

First name, Shallah. Middle name, Tiara. Im a Brooklyn Girl, born and raised. I've spent time in other places, but Brooklyn, above anywhere else, is home. 23 years young, and I've seen, been through, and been involved in more than you can imagine. I've visited quite a few dark spaces. Right before creating my blog, for example, I tried to take my own life. After recovery, I decided the only way to go from there was up. It's still a process of course, but I realized I have a lot to live for. I'm a daughter, sister, friend, mom (to my dog Herman), dancer, radio host, DJ, mentor, free spirit, the list goes on. I have a purpose that probably hasn't even been revealed to me yet. So, here I go, trying to figure it out just like everyone else. Except for me, my story is here for you to experience with me. | IG @ShallahTiara

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